There are also so many things I would’ve liked to tell my younger self. I would’ve wanted my younger self to know that all of the kids that bullied me and all, they don’t matter and they don’t define me. So there’s no reason to try and deal with them. That I shouldn’t take every word to heart. That it isn’t worth making excuses for friends who hurt you. That everything would be okay. I just would like to make sure that people know that you are your own person and no one can change that. You decide how you want to live your life and you get to decide who you are. Only you.
Having a Cleft lip and palate has no doubt made who I am today. Of course physically, but also emotionally and mentally. Without my Cleft palate, I am not sure I would be the person I am today. I feel like I am much more caring because I know how much just being nice to someone can be. When people were nice to me, it made such a big difference for me, even just the little things... So when someone needs that little thing, do it and help them because you have no idea what they are going through and most of all, they’re asking because they need it. I also feel like I am a stronger person because of everything I’ve been through and have had to overcome. And without it, I know I’d be a different person. So I would say that having a Cleft lip has made me a better person and I am so glad it did.
And a lot of times when you are happy, it is easier to help others with what they need. That is a lot of the reason I am trying to help others by connecting them while I am happy and healthy because I know others aren’t. Others are suffering through surgery and recovering at the very second and I want to do everything in my power to make sure they do not have to feel the same way I did. I want them to feel that they are not alone, that they have a place to connect, that they are loved, and that they are loved for who they are. And in that sense, be proud of who they are and what they look like. To become CleftProud.